I (70s F) am the grandma to 5 grandkids. My husband & I usually get them a small wedding gift.
For our youngest one, we bought an air fryer and sent it in advance. She called us, furious, yelling why we couldn’t get her something more expensive. I listened to all the accusations, nearly crying, and then dropped the bombshell on her: “Yes, you’re right. We are cheap, old, and useless. The only thing you DIDN’T know is that the day before the wedding, we were going to gift vou